Tinder, a leader among American dating apps, is about to turn 10. Tinder is widely criticized as being bad for healthy relationships and even mental health. Generally, it’s a bad rap; the problem runs deeper than our smartphones.
It is easy for people in my generation (Gen X) who found their spouses before the age of the smartphone to criticize online dating apps for connecting people too superficially or delivering far too many options. Of course, it is important to consider ways these apps may be negatively impacting people’s lives, but many of the complaints I’ve seen about Tinder and other dating apps seem to be rooted more in a discomfort with technological change than a deep analysis of how to best find a mate and build a successful relationship.